What is sex addiction?
Sex addiction or hyper-sexuality, is a compulsive participation in sexual activity, or put simply any sexual activity that feels 'out of your control'.
Sex addiction can take many different forms, including, but not limited to; compulsive masturbation, watching large amounts of pornography and soliciting prostitution. For sex addicts these compulsions and urges can have catastrophic effects on their home lives, families, partners and careers.
How do I know if I am a Sex addict?
Unlike healthy sex, addicts often use sex or compulsive masturbation as a means of
- Dealing with stressful situations,
- Tackling anxiety or boredom,
- And in some cases it can make the addict feel more powerful.
Behaviours of a sex addict:
In his book, ‘Out of the shadows’, Dr. Patrick Carnes Ph.D, helps to define sexual addictive behaviour. Carnes writes that sexual addiction is often found in one or more of the following 3 categories;
- Secretive: The most common of the three categories, is when an addict keeps his or her activities completely separate from their everyday lives. The addict will often find themselves completely wrapped up in lies and manipulations. In many cases they feel their behaviour is justified and are lying to those they are close with and to themselves.
- Shameful: This is when the addict feels an inner sense of worthlessness and will often spend a huge amount of time and money soliciting sex in order to feel worthy.
- Abusive: This can range from voyeurism to rape. With abusive addicts it is often the case that there is a history of violent behaviour and acting out.
Causes of sex addiction
Paula Hall, a sexual and relationship psychologist, who has been specialising in the field of sex and porn addiction for more than 12 years, states that there are a number of causes including;
- Childhood experiences; Abuse, neglect, rejection or bullying
- Adult trauma
- Easy access to sexual experiences
How can we help?
David Kavanagh is a registered systemic family therapist based in Dundrum, Co. Dublin. Along with 12 years’ experience working with clients dealing with a range of issues, he has been monitoring the impact of sex addiction in Irish Society for over ten years now.
What is Systemic Therapy?
Systemic family therapy is a form of counselling that focuses mainly on an individual’s relationships, group interactions and their interactional dynamics and patterns.
If you are looking for someone professional, caring, empathetic and experienced then David Kavanagh is the counsellor for you. Below are just some of the area’s he is specialised in;
- Anger management
- Business consultancy
- Couples counselling
- Family counselling
- Relationship issues
- Separation issues
David has created a therapeutic program that involves Neuropsychotherapy that you can complete in the comfort and privacy of your own home. You can begin today, no waiting, no embarrassment, and no shame! Ask David about this when you meet him.
What is Neuropsychotherapy?
Neuropsychotherapy is an integrative approach to therapy that takes into account the dynamic interplay between the mind, the body, social interactions, and the environment on a person’s well-being with a focus on neuroscientific research. The human brain can be better understood with this approach and help you beat your addiction.
To book an appointment with David please use the contact form on this website.
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David Kavanagh, Systemic Family Therapist